My friends and our relatives think we are being selfish in not helping our children. Keeping active and living within our means has given us a good quality of life in our senior years. You could say that in our retirement years, my husband and I have a greater bonding and we are rediscovering our love for each other. In the meantime, we have travelled to five places in India and both of us have joined a gym. We will visit them both next year and stay for only a couple of weeks.
#Metrognome where have you been free
There was ample free time but nothing to do.īoth my sons were upset for a while. Staying at their homes, with nothing to do apart from taking care of the baby, came with its own problems: we did not have a car at our disposal, so we had to wait for our sons to come home and take us out. I explained gently that we would visit occasionally, but only for a few days. He demanded to know why we could not help him after helping his brother. When I told Sanket that we would not be coming, he was furious. But then my husband said the most important thing: “Whom did we call when we had our sons? You were managing our business with young sons in your lap. The mother in me protested against the wife in me – my sons needed our help while they took care of their young children and their jobs. We can’t keep shuttling between countries like this.” “First Sangram’s baby, then Sanket’s baby. “We can’t keep doing this,” my husband reasoned. While we were there, Sangram’s mother-in-law had also dropped in and she was to stay for six months. At our age, it was very difficult to care for an infant. As he spoke, I realised that what he was saying was true. “I don’t want to go,” he repeated stubbornly.Ī little digging revealed that he was uncomfortable doing ‘babysitting duties’ for our sons. On hearing this, my husband became silent.Ī few days later, I asked him, “What’s wrong?” We had just returned home after this visit that Sanket asked us to come to the UK because his wife, Sonali was pregnant. We stayed there for four months to assist them while they took care of their baby. Two years ago, my husband and I went to Germany when Sangram’s wife, Maitri, gave birth to their son. Five years ago, my younger son went to the UK with his wife, and a year later, Sangram went to Germany with his fiancee. It was just a matter of time before they went to work abroad.
Our sons grew up to become engineers, and both of them got jobs in US-based companies. Ever since we had our two children – my sons Sangram and Sanket – we had been focussed on giving them the best life ever. Since then, we settled into our life in the city fairly quickly. My husband and I ran a garment business together in Pune, and we shifted to Mumbai in 1996. Even when they grow up, we run to assist them and make their life easier. In India, we go to extreme lengths to ensure that our children are happy. As told to Reyna MathurĮveryone says that as parents, we must do everything to protect our children. What caused this refusal? This is her story.
#Metrognome where have you been full
Mandakini Mashelkar refused to become a full time babysitter for her grandchildren.
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